When I used to picture the future, there was always the question of “who will I marry?” I suppose because I watched movies where people fell in love and had a beautiful example from my parents I was excited for this moment of clarity. I started to pray for my husband at a young age. As I got older, I realized there is a lot of demand for the affection of my heart. This meant one very important decision to make if I wanted to protect my heart – do not compromise.
If you want to hear my story, read the next section.
I didn’t really date in high school. I’m not saying it’s for everyone but for me, it was best. I knew I was “saving” my heart. I wanted to grow in things I loved and enjoy hanging out with friends without distractions. Despite my naivety, I saw that people’s intentions were not always pure. I watched friends get their hearts broken. I watched friendships dissipate. It was as though girls were more willing to give in when they forgot what they are worth. I’m not implying every single guy is out to get you–I’m merely saying people can be selfish, especially at a young age. You’re worth so much more than a boy’s opinion. You were bought with someone’s life – you are made whole because of what Jesus did for you. There is grace for our mistakes and healing for every heartbreak. Dear, you are so loved.
“Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” Hebrews 4:16
I’m going to challenge you with this: “Guard your heart with ALL diligence.” It’s not a rule, more of a challenge to take you into what God has for you.
Have you ever been to London? Guard your heart like you’re protecting the Queen. I’ll The castle guards at Buckingham Palace are notorious for keeping intense focus despite tourists desperately trying to distract them. They do this because otherwise, what is really important could be compromised. You can stay true to your heart and you don’t have to give your precious time and emotions to something that isn’t good for you. You don’t need to hear “you’re beautiful” from a guy to be beautiful. I’m sure it’s nice to hear, but don’t sacrifice a special part of you to hear it. Your choices now will have an effect on your marriage later.
Queen Esther’s marriage was ordained for a great purpose. “If I perish, I perish,” she said, after learning in order to save her people she must risk her life. (See Esther 3-4.) Her marriage strategically placed her in places to help other people. Despite the glitz and glamour of living in a palace, I don’t think it was an easy place to be.
I took this matter so seriously growing up because I wanted this kind of intention in my own marriage. I wanted to be willing to go wherever I needed to go so God could use me. It’s not always easy but God is always for you.
“And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap a harvest, if we do not give up.”